i’m asleep. that’s what i am.

“I’m asleep. That’s what I am. I’m always asleep.”

My grandmother has dementia. I spend my weekends with her. On Sunday she had a pensive moment and when I asked her if she was ok she said “I’m asleep. That’s what I am. I’m always asleep.”

She looked so sad and so done with caring, it broke my heart.

My grandfather, a stoic man, saw it and saw me reacting badly to it and sat down beside her and took her hand in his and this is what he said:

“You know, when you love somebody it don’t get old and fade away when you do, or when things change. I love her more now than I ever have. I fell in love with this little girl the first time I laid eyes on her. I was twelve years old and if you would have told me then that I’d ever love anybody more, I wouldn’t have believed you. But I do. I love her more. Now. And that’s the truth.”

I cried. Because that’s just what I do.

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  • Pam
    Mar 2, 2011 at 20:47

    It’s when our loved ones are the most vulnerable that we love them more than ever.

  • steph
    Mar 2, 2011 at 23:07

    i love love LOVE the new makeover!
    tears tears and more tears..

  • Betsy Kay
    Mar 3, 2011 at 0:43

    Aunt Christine is os special! It makes me mad what this disease does to people we love! She and Uncle Bill are so very special. I love them so
    much and momma and daddy miss them something awful!

  • Angela
    Mar 9, 2011 at 1:15

    I love your grandparents! And I know that your grandpa meant with all of his heart what he said. Not only does he mean it, he lives it.

  • JP Fanshawe
    Mar 10, 2011 at 14:28

    Your Grandfather brought me to tears…

  • Gen
    May 25, 2012 at 1:29

    Buffy, this was beautiful. I have tears in my eyes. Bless your grandfather. He’s a good man.