Comments on: bellinis and babies

By: to chaz - plain simple english

to chaz - plain simple english — Wed, 31 Jan 2007 23:48:56 +0000

[...] Before you get too excited and begin berating me for ‘giving up’ – the position is part time and flexible btw – I’ve also got a writing gig. Proper, paid and professional. It’s academic. Not creative. Think Stephen Hawkins and singularities over Melissa Bank and Wonder Spot. I’ll need to brush up on sounding intelligent. I once pulled the look off quite well, you know. [...]

By: Phoe

Phoe — Sat, 22 Apr 2006 00:54:58 +0000

I am 25 and I got pregnant 5 weeks after a co-worker who is 45. She had a healthy baby girl 5 weeks early, but she was still healthy. I am hoping to have a healthy baby girl within the next couple of weeks, too.

I never wanted kids when I was younger – I wanted to go out and conquer the world. Life changes – My brother died and when that happened it made me want kids more than anything. Family is so precious to me. Now, instead of conquering the world, I just want to be able to handle the world of mommy-hood and not go crazy.

Even when I was young I got the “you’re crazy if you don’t want kids”. Now that I am having a kid, I am getting the “you’re crazy because you only want one kid”. For my husband and I, one is all we want or need. But, what I have learned in my 25 years is every person on the planet has an opinion on how you choose to live your life. Some people will agree (those who understand you), some will disagree, and some will be down-right offensive about it. People who come across as being rude to me will get my equally rude response – “I don’t want to be a referee for the next 18 years – Siblings fight – Even kids who grow up and love each other will fight in their youth – I don’t have the patience to deal with that”. And I don’t think I have ever spoken truer words.

By: allison

allison — Thu, 16 Mar 2006 17:25:44 +0000

Yes…holding tight to 29.

And happy not to have had any children yet, because then I would be stuck with their fathers in my life. And believe me, I am much better off without.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Wed, 15 Mar 2006 17:35:26 +0000

As I get older I realize more and more that people who give you advice or ask you why you aren’t at a certain space in your life–well, they have issues, too, just like you do. It’s hard not to take things personally. I am 29 and single, and even though I love it and am not lonely, a lot of people question why I am single–it starts to hurt, until I remind myself who is asking the questions and passing the judgement.

Kids are a big deal. I’ve heard that they change your life forever. Some people who have them never should have even thought of having them in the first place. Take your time and love what you have now, a great guy and a great bunch of girls to hang out with for cocktails and talk.

Enjoying your blog so much, Buffy.

By: Elle

Elle — Mon, 13 Mar 2006 15:51:35 +0000

Ditto…

By: K

Fri, 10 Mar 2006 19:25:51 +0000

First time I’m coming to your site and I couldn’t agree more. I’ve been at the table with the girls, shifting weight and topics since I’ve got one too–and not much to complain about…

Great writing.

By: The Laughing Frog

The Laughing Frog — Fri, 10 Mar 2006 04:55:38 +0000

If I ever become a mother, I’ll be retired by the time my kid goes off to college.

By: LisaBinDaCity

LisaBinDaCity — Wed, 08 Mar 2006 16:23:42 +0000

Selling ice to an eskimo not once but twice – very impressive!

By: BougieBlackBoy

BougieBlackBoy — Tue, 07 Mar 2006 21:04:44 +0000

Great write up. You’re good with creative nonfiction. And, importantly I see how passionate you are with your decision. You’re a powerful writer. Iaeger breeds the best, we just had to get out to realize it.

By: David

David — Tue, 07 Mar 2006 02:43:39 +0000

If you want kids, have ‘em! Dont let anyone’s point of view ruin your dream. If you listened to everyone, how far in life would you get? Listen to your heart and follow it. It’s the only way to live. Children or not.